Three years is a long time to be out of the game. It’s a long time to only really worry about what one person thinks of you — or to actually care what that person thinks.
Three years. It makes it difficult to rediscover that internal self-sufficiency that allows you to survive — mentally and emotionally — not on another’s opinion of you. Indeed, it makes it hard to return to that state where the opinions of strangers — especially prospective romantic partners — don’t much matter to you. And it is that self-confidence that allows one to make the needed positive impression on such persons.
The key, of course, is not caring — or, at least, recognizing those whose opinions are worth worrying about and those whose aren’t.
An easy guide is as follows:
- If they are new acquaintances (and not important professional partners, et cetera), their opinions don’t matter.
- If they are friends or family, their opinions probably matter, though this isn’talways true.
As they say, opinions are like assholes, everyone has one — unless they’re deformed, and then they probably still have opinions; just not assholes. Opinions are like suggestions — you have to be prepared to ignore them.